THE VOICE IN MY HEAD

***THE VOICE IN MY HEAD*** 

Voice...

Meaning;

1. the sound or sounds uttered through the mouth of living creatures, especially of human beings in speaking, shouting, singing, etc. 

2. the faculty or power of uttering sounds through the mouth by the controlled expulsion of air; speech:

to lose one's voice. 

When it comes to shyness, I think in the world's population I will be ranked the tenth person to the last person.

As an individual, being shy is not when am in the midst of a crowd or in a crowded environment but even among my family members, i am always shy. When about engaging an individual for assistance or to show what I can do I will just hear this voice in my head "what if he rejects your offer", "are you sure you wanna do this", "she might stop being your friend you know" and me being a person who never want to fail will just hide behind my shyness and say nothing. 

At age seventeen, there was a lady I loved and all I wanna do is be with her. It was obvious she cares about me too as we were friends but not dating. People suggested me Bola go pop the question as we were perceived to be perfect together but again I heard this VOICE in my head saying "Bruh, do you not think asking this girl out is only going to destroy your relationship with her as friends?", "Hey bruh, you better not screw up this friendship with this pretty girl and keep mute about it" I constantly always have this VOICE speaking to me in my saying different things to me that shuts me up and it makes me crawl back into my shell.

This lady hated me for not asking her out despite the junior sister begged me to ask out her sister because she talks a lot about me. I am the issue here so I took up courage and told myself I will ask her out and just when I was about to tell her the VOICE came in tell me "FOOL, what if you telling her that now means the end of friendship?"

I never did asked her out and I lost her to another man and till today after many years she still doesn't talk or reply me. 

These VOICES in our head are called noise when they speak negative things or doubts to us but there is a still small VOICE in our head which if we really listen it will turn down the noises in our head. 

1 Kings 19:11-13

New King James Version

God’s Revelation to Elijah

11 Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; 12 and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire A STILL SMALL VOICE.

13 So it was, when Elijah heard it, that he wrapped his face in his mantle and went out and stood in the entrance of the cave. Suddenly a voice came to him, and said, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” 

The VOICES in our heads are fueled by what we hear or listen to and allowed to sink into our mind, it then goes into our subconscious mind and start to act either negatively or positively as the case maybe. 

Imagine back then at the Pepsi event when Michael Jackson the father of Pop a great dancer fell down on the stage performing d same steps he had gotten right more than a hundred times practicing, or Cristiano Ronaldo who had failed a lot in skills just when he was trying to prove he is good enough to play in the Premier League at the beginning of his career. 

Lots of superstars or legends won't be who they are today if they had stop trying, the VOICE will always be there to make you feel little but feed the positive VOICE in your head the more and allow the VOICE overshadow that negative VOICE in you. 

Examples; 

1. WARREN BUFFETT

If there's a success story that can convince you of the untapped potential of fearful speakers, it's the story of Warren Buffett's unbelievably prosperous career. 

Once a college student who was "terrified of getting up and saying [his] name," Buffett was able to overcome his aversion to speaking in front of others by facing his fears head on. 

It was not easy, though. 

He spent much of his college years avoiding courses that would require him to speak in front of the class. At one point, he mustered the courage to sign up for a public speaking course but then dropped out the last minute. 

At the age of 21, he started his career as a stock broker and realized that he had two choices: either force himself to face his fears or avoid them and never reach his full potential. Buffett finally decided to take the first path and enrolled in a Dale Carnegie course on public speaking. He was relieved to find that there were 30 other people in the class who were experiencing the same anxieties and was able to complete the course. 

"You have to do it. And the earlier you do it, the better. It’s so much easier to learn the right habits when you’re young. If you have a fear of associating with people, you have to go out there and do it, and it’s painful…," he said in an interview with Levo League. 

Currently, Buffett is the third richest person on the planet, with a net worth of $65.7 billion. 

2. ABRAHAM LINCOLN

Another of the nation's most revered presidents, Abraham Lincoln was also once afraid of facing a large crowd. 

After giving a rousing, high-profile speech on the need to control the spread of slavery at Cooper Union in New York, Lincoln--then an Illinois statesman--was viewed by many as a potential candidate for the presidency. The "electrifying" effect of his talk led a Republican political committee to invite him to speak in New Jersey a month later. 

Lincoln, however, declined the invitation. “I cannot speak in New Jersey this time. I have over stayed my time — have heard something about sickness in my family — and really am nervous and unfit to fill my engagement already made here in Connecticut. Will you please excuse me?” 

The note reveals that Lincoln was not comfortable with his increasing notoriety and was anxious to the point of missing out on an important opportunity. He went on, however, to campaign for the presidency and become one of the most influential leaders of all time. 

Adele, Katy Perry, Rihanna, Michael Jackson etc many more had this issues too... 

Important notes you must know just as someone said.... 

1. Never avoid fears but face them head on. 

2. Speak positively about ourselves and our abilities. 

3. Choose a topic that excites a passion greater than the fear of speaking. 

4. Focus on delivering a concise but forceful message--and less on rousing a crowd. 

5. Forget about your own success or failure and keep your eye on what's important: the mission, the people, the message 

HOW DO YOU SILENCE THE NEGATIVE VOICES? 

1. What you listen to: You have to stop listen or feeding your mind with negative feelings or thoughts or paying attention to false friends. 

2. Self-esteem: You have to be confident in yourself and believe you are more than what the VOICES in your head or outside it is telling you. 

3. Block out the noise: You have to identify what makes noise around you and kill it by removing it from around you so it stop feeding the fear n VOICES in you. 

4. Possess a sound mind: The only war you can do this is to know and be sure of what you need,purse it with full mind and body into it. You must be very sure and accept that this is what I need and not want.

N.B. 

We can't do anything by ourselves so we need the help of God to become a better version of us for we know not what is best for us most times but God does. How do we then get God to help us...? 

Say this with open mind and heart; 

"Lord Jesus, forgive my sins and please come take full control of my life from this day forward, help me to grow into the man you want me to be and do great things with me in Amen."

Author: Damsky Bola 

Email: Damskybola10@gmail.com 

Twitter/Instagram: Damskybola10 

#TheVoiceInMyHead